From the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
It begins with something you both can agree on: self-respect.
The end of a marriage can be tragic enough. Often, the process of divorcing only adds to the pain. You and your spouse my come to see each other as adversaries and the divorce as a battleground. You may experience feelings of confusion, anger, loss and conflict. Under such circumstances, you might find it difficult to see an end to divorce, much less imagine a hopeful afterwards.
But it doesn't have to be this way. A growing number of parting couples, along with other professionals such as lawyers, mental health professionals and financial specialists, have been seeking a more constructive alternative. These professionals have developed the Collaborative Practice model.
Collaborative Practice is a reasonable approach to divorce based on three principles:
- A pledge not to go to court
- An honest exchange of information by both spouses
- A solution that takes into account the highest priorities of both adults and their children
Mutual respect is fundamental to the collaborative way. You may cease being spouses, but you don't cease being worthy human beings. When respect is given and received, discussions are likely to be more productive and an agreement reached more easily.
For more about Collaborative Divorce go to www.collaborativepractice.com
Decide if a collaborative divorce is right for you. I am qualified to be your financial professional, and assist both you and your spouse, regarding the financial issues of your divorce. All services are provided while maintaining an ethically strong neutral position. Each of you will have clear new information regarding your future financial well-being and have the opportunity to discuss the financial analysis in detail as you make your decisions.
"Collaborative Divorce - A Safe Place" is a twenty minute film following the true life story of one couple as they proceed through their own Collaborative divorce. This is the first such film which features actual clients, sharing their thoughts, feelings and experiences in their own words. Cameras rolled through meetings with Collaborative professionals and poignant conversations betweeen the clients. We think you will find it to be a powerful piece for gaining understanding of how a Collaborative divorce may be your best choice. Click here.
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